We recently held a breath healing circle from our home and the intention for the evening was forgiveness. We discussed what forgiveness meant to each person and found many definitions and concepts. Some ideas had elements of superiority/inferiority which inspired me to share more about the topic to reduce forgiveness to it’s simplest form.
Forgiveness is, in a sense, the art of spaciousness and creating space. I will come back to this concept; but first, let’s look at a concept that I see frequently - embracing the shadow or darkness. To begin, let’s objectively define light and darkness.
Darkness - A fixed point. An area of focus or suffering, often accompanied by a desire to change.
Light - A moving form. An area of spaciousness surrounding an area of focus with the intention to move and transform.
Embracing the dark is only beneficial when you recognize and acknowledge the spaciousness surrounding the point of suffering. Otherwise, there is a tendency to stay and be swallowed by the darkness. It’s like getting drunk on your own emotions and claiming to be deeper than everyone else because you’re willing to be so miserable. If you want to hang out there, that’s cool, I’ve done it before, but there is a more balanced way to go about examining and processing your suffering.
In seated meditation with the screens turned off, close your eyes and find an area of focus. Penetrate and surround that area with spaciousness. And do this in the spirit of kindness.
The regular practice of focus and spaciousness will illuminate conscious and unconscious areas of bitterness. And the word forgiveness can be eliminated all together. You can develop enough spaciousness to see AND experience that a hurtful act toward you is really a person in pain; and the act loses it’s charge. If someone doesn’t agree with you, you’ve developed focus on the ‘why’ the disagreement is causing you so much suffering, then blame and friction dissipates. You are empowered to develop the tools of focus and spaciousness, accompanied by kindness, to carry you through the darkest of days. It only requires practice.
*The terms of darkness and light are self-defined. You can find additional meditations in my book, 40 Meditations: stories inspired by yoga and practices for transformation.
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