Yoga teaches me not to compare myself to others & embrace my unique essence. In Marie Forleo’s B-School, she talks about two business models - 1. The Shark Model in which you are in competition with anyone who offers your product or service 2. The Wide Blue Ocean Model (I am paraphrasing) in which you realize that what you have to offer is special and unique and in that way you don’t have to compete because what you have is so different.
I find this ideology applies to so many life situations. The problem is, many people compare you to others making it extremely difficult to embrace our own unique qualities. Sometimes I hear “You’re this kind of teacher and so-and-so teaches this way. I like them both....”
When I hear things like this, my mind says “way to limit me.” I find that when people compare you to someone else in anyway, it’s an attempt to understand but the side effect is that it’s limiting. By saying you are like or unlike something else is an attempt to understand through containment.
The other statement I hear - sometimes externally, sometimes internally - “You’re _____ years old, you should have this figured out by now.” Well, that’s also a comparison to an artificial measurement of time and societal landmarks outlining when life events should occur. “No, you should be figuring it out now, because you are figuring it out now and that’s exactly how it should be because it’s happening - now.”
The point is, WHO YOU ARE IS A GIFT, not conditional upon how much you make or have in the bank account, who you are or are not dating, what job you have, where you live, what you own, whether you have it figured out or not, or whether you feel like you’re progressing or not. All those things are conditional and created by us. The basic fact is you are here now. The other basic fact is that your unique essence is a gift to all of us. The comparison game is just that, a game and a way to stay small and hideaway because you feel you’re not “good enough.” Well, you are good enough.
Hi! I'm Robin - Teacher, Singer, & Author. I love creativity & sharing what I love!